When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be – Lao Tzu
Letting go in life is often the most difficult part of change. The avoidance of letting go is also what keeps you from becoming who you are meant to be. So as we move through this year of positive thinking there will be moments of pain and struggle. Similar to trying anything new. For example, when starting the gym or an exercise routine for the first time, you may feel ready and excited to start and probably work out that initial day with copious enthusiasm. But come that next morning you wonder if this new routine is worth it since you feel like you have been run over by a truck. Well keep sight of that pain as change can take on a similar form, though mostly emotional. Mind you that months down the road after starting this new routine you have accomplished things that were previously unimaginable or felt as if they were out of your league. Change is very similar, you have the potential of becoming a person that was once thought to be impossible.
This quote really magnified the need to trust ones internal self. Besides all that you believe about yourself is often minimized and/or skewed. It is difficult to incorporate the positive parts of life and thereby we frequently live by this distorted sense of self, which falls below our potential. But letting go of all the past failures, tragedies, losses and inflictions one is able to open their internal eyes to what the world has been saving for you all along. We miss our own blessings and happiness when our eyes become fixated on past grief.
I can tell you that letting go of bad thoughts about yourself will truly open doors in your mind and your life. Becoming free is a process and one that silences internal fear. Fear robs us of our greatness and keeps our potential hushed. Take control of your life by letting go and accepting that it is hard to makes changes and that it is normal to experience fear but none-the-less challenge yourself to improve.
A quick exercise:
This quick exercise can help to push you toward a positive path and the right track. Often to internalize reality we must see it first. Like the old saying, ‘I will believe it when I see it.’ Well here you go. If you are one of those people then I encourage you to take part. Take out a blank piece of paper, any will do, and tear it up into small pieces like 1” by 2” – just enough to scribble on. Now write down the negative parts of yourself that you want to change on individual pieces of paper. Include fears that you have about changing those negative patterns on other pieces of paper. This part of the exercise works best when you are as open and honest with yourself as possible. Tackling fear includes acknowledging its presence. Now write down on individual pieces of paper what attributes will replace the negative ones. Once you have recorded the focal points you wish to challenge, toss the negative attributes and fears in the garbage. That is where they belong. This symbolizes that you no longer need those aspects and that you will keep the positive, more adaptable parts. Place the negative parts of yourself somewhere you can see them often as a reminder.
It may look like this –
|I am a disappointment||I am not responsible for others thoughts about me||I will make someone unhappy|
By learning the most about your fears one is able to be free from your perceptions about yourself and others. It is impossible to be responsible for others thoughts but in some facets we believe that we have control. By living a negative and fearful life you become consumed by a vicious circle of false thoughts and perceptions. But being free is a choice and one that takes work and maintenance. I also stand by the perception that nothing is perfect but continue trying to improve where things are “good enough.” I wish you all good luck throwing out the negative and fearful thoughts and stop by sometime and let me know how this process is going.