An affirmation is the assertion that something exists or is true (dictionary.com). Therefore a positive affirmation is the previous statement done in a positive way. When a statement or phase is asserted toward oneself then in time it becomes solidified in that person’s mind as the truth. Something to the effect of the self-fulfilling prophecy or reaping what you sow. One true way countless people become all they dreamt is by practice and taking on a “fake it till you make it” persona. So for example, if you tell yourself that you will fail repeatedly then it is no wonder when you actually fail. Yet the opposite is also true.
Setting time aside for positive affirmations may not be an easy task and may feel weird when first indulging in these self-perceived thoughts. But in time it will become second nature and more affirmations will likely come to mind.
Some really good examples of positive affirmations include:
• I deserve ________.
• I am a good person.
• I like the way I look.
• My friends like me.
• I can achieve __________.
• I am a good __________.
• I speak well.
• I am reliable.
• I am smart.
The list can go on but those are a few to choose from and feel free to adjust to fit your own life. Also if you are struggling with finding positive attributes then use some of the above examples until you can begin believing in yourself enough to create your own.
When thinking of some of the examples it may not be evident why affirmations work. Well think of it like this, if you are so used to negative self-talk and say horrible things about yourself then you probably won’t know what it feels like to say something nice. Once using positive affirmations and truly working on believing them then your mood will probably change.
If you don’t believe me then do a quick exercise. Sit in a chair and position yourself in front of a mirror. Begin saying negative things about you directly in the mirror. Concentrate on looking at yourself and saying some horrible things you have thought at one time or another. Now take a deep breath and give yourself a moment. Doing the same thing now but say positive things to yourself directly in the mirror again concentrating on yourself and how you look. Once you have completed both parts of the exercise recall your body language and what was going on inside for you. How were the two parts different? Did you notice a difference in your tone of voice, eye contact, and body language? Now what was the internal process like? Was your heart beating faster, did you feel shame or guilt.
Just like the exercise positive affirmations work in the same way. If a negative outlook is relied on then internally you are likely to cringe, reduce self-esteem and mood. Contrarily positive affirmations help one to sit up tall and feel more aware and assured about self. Positive affirmations create positive moods and perceptions, which in turn increases one’s mood.